Anonymous asked:
I don't understand what Doms want! I'm trying to be what they say they want but I don't get it and they leave! I'm tired of being alone!

submissivelyspeaking:

Why do you care what Doms want?
Why aren’t you just being yourself?

I’m about to rant so I apologize…
But… For the love of fuck would someone please realize that being submissive isn’t acting a certain way?!
Submissive is who you are. (Or you aren’t submissive.)
It is not a costume you wear. It’s not something you turn on and off at will. Being submissive is not acting ignorant, needy, slutty, ridiculous, etc- it’s being exactly who you REALLY are and finding a Dominant partner who loves you exactly that way.
It is not pretending to not know what an orgasm feels like. It is not pretending to be a virgin. It is not begging Dom blog strangers to let you cum.
Being submissive is not role-play.
Stop minimizing the true gift that submission is by muddying the waters with bad acting.
So as far as how to keep what I would assume to be fake Doms interested- I haven’t the foggiest, but if I were you, I would be doing some soul searching and getting to know myself and my needs. Submission isn’t something you throw at people and hope they want it.
Submission is probably the single sexiest thing a person can offer. It’s saying ‘I know exactly who I am. I know exactly what I want. I choose to place it all in your hands and let you lead me and love me because I believe the journey will be beautiful.’

An intelligent, beautiful woman with a dirty mind that makes you laugh non-stop should be treasured.

(Source: lilfellow)